Trigger Warning**
Let’s talk about money.
Stick with more for a moment – I promise it’ll be good.
Have you ever felt a bit shitty about yourself because of money? Or because of what you didn’t have?
Starting in Middle School I started to feel this. I didn’t have all of the Hollister or Abercrombie clothes the popular preppy girls had. I associated popularity and being at the top of a totem pole with having more money. I associated money with status, and status with acceptance and praise and how I valued myself.
Money is just a tool. Just like an ax is a tool to cut wood… or murder someone. Two different results with different intentions of use. So if someone is using money as a tool to feel better about themselves, it’ll never be enough. It’s a false sense of superiority and will continue to result in suffering and low self worth.
Anything that falls in line with the energetics of scarcity is out of alignment with the reality we need to shift into as a planet.
Being enough doesn’t come from having more money. Power and value is inherently within each of us, no matter what’s in your bank account.
If someone has more money than you, that’s simply it. It doesn’t mean ANYTHING about you and your value. If you feel a little shitty, that’s an area for YOU to dig into and ask yourself, why? It’s not the fault of the other person.
Once the false beliefs are broken and you believe in your core the inherent value of your whole being, these topics won’t impact you the same. They won’t bring you to doubt, fear, or be in a perpetual cycle of misery.
Everyone is capable of having more money. It’s not defined by who you are or where you come from. For me, having more money is part of my healing process. What if having more money represents breaking cycles of poverty in a family lineage to get there? What if it means we are decolonizing ourselves. The history of colonization is deeply rooted in many of us and the resulting survival based beliefs were passed down. For others, their family lineage learned in order to survive they had to maintain a high status through oppression. Both sides are not benefitting from the structures created from scarcity.
It gets pretty deep. Working through our relationship with money, and the triggers we feel, is transformative and will change the whole world.
The next time you feel shameful, or guilty, or a little shitty when a topic of money comes up. Take a deep breath, and celebrate it for being a catalyst for change.
One last thought I’ll leave you with.
What if, exchanges of money happened in a vibration of love? What if money could be generated through the expression of our hearts? Through sensations of pleasure? In harmony with our body and our health and wellbeing?
Integration prompts:
These questions are not for the goal of having more, but rather having peace and a positive emotional experience and inner stability around the topic of money. As you reflect and respond, take as much time as you need, and be mindful if you are getting into your head to answer these questions. Sometimes the answer is immediate and what we least expect. This is your intuitive answer and the most True answer for YOU!
Part 1
a. What was your childhood experience like when the topic of money was brought up? How did your family act, speak, and emotionally react around the topic?
b. What is your current relationship with money like? What does your bank account reflect to you? How do you feel when you spend money? How to do you manage your finances?
Take a pause to celebrate the ways you are already having a healthy relationship with money! For example, I’m celebrating that I have awareness that my heart rate goes up when the topic is brought up, and I’m focusing on my breath to help calm me when that happens.
b. What is the first step you can take to experience a positive change in this area of life? (listen to your first response)
c. What would support and guide you while healing your relationship with money?
d. What brings you soulful fulfillment?
Part 2
Take at least 5 minutes to shake it off after you process these questions. Dance, move, stretch, exercise, take a walk, breathe.
Part 3
a. How do you want your relationship with money to look and feel like instead?
b. If you had a healthy, loving, and peaceful relationship with giving, receiving and having money, what would your core beliefs be?
c. What kind of activities and shift in language would support embodying this belief?
d. What changes could you make in your physical environment to be in an energetic alignment with this new reality?
e. For this relationship to thrive, what would help to integrate new behavior and beliefs on a daily basis?
